Find relief from the fear and uncertainty keeping you stuck in love and relationships.

Specialized therapy for women struggling with relationship anxiety and rebuilding trust after trauma and toxic relationships.

Based in Ashburn, VA. Online across Virginia and Connecticut.

From the outside, you’ve built a successful life. So why does it still feel like it could all fall apart? 

Let’s be honest. 

Image of Brittany Schnurr, LMFT, a therapist in Fairfax, VA sitting on brick steps of a historical home with a purple door with a warm smile and looking approachable. She is sitting beside two pots of fuscia mums.

You’ve always been capable. You exceeded in school. You’re great at what you do. People rely on you, and you rarely let them down. You’re warm, composed, and thoughtful. You enjoy your friends, your family. You carry responsibility without making it heavy for others.

From the outside, you absolutely have it together.

But privately, it’s different. When everything slows down, you find yourself replaying conversations. You second guess and question your decisions. You wonder if you’ve missed something—and worry you will make a mistake. You’re the one people come to for advice—but when it comes to your own life, you often find yourself doubting your instincts.

You seem so confident, but no one knows that you cry on the way to work. 

Even when things go well, it’s hard to fully take it in. There’s a part of you that feels on edge - like it could all shift at any moment. It’s stressful to do the balancing act. And honestly, it’s wearing on you. It’s exhausting to feel like you always have to hold it together. Maybe you’ve even walked away from a relationship that wasn’t right—and thought you’d feel more certain by now. You advocate clearly at work. Your team can count on you to set the tone, keep everyone motivated, and get things done. 

But in your relationships, something shifts. 

You soften your requests. You find yourself going with the flow because it’s just not worth making it an issue. When you do set a boundary, you feel guilty afterwards— even when it was reasonable. There’s a quiet fear underneath it —that if you ask for more, you’ll be seen as needy. That if you show up fully, you’ll be too much. That speaking up might cost you connection. The fear that if you are your whole self, you’ll find yourself alone. 

So… you adjust. You give the benefit of the doubt. You figured out how to keep it moving. But over time, constantly managing and compromising takes a toll. Deep down you know what you want, and you’re tired of feeling like you’re the one getting in your own way.

Your true self - the one deep down you know you are and could be - she is clear, decisive, and trusts her own instincts. You want to stop being caught in the spirals, and trust that if something went awry, you could handle it. You want to listen to your intuition and speak up for your needs, and know when it is time to walk away and put your energy elsewhere. You want to feel clearer, more decisive, and more trusting of your own instincts. Secure in yourself— without having to prove it.


I believe that coming home to yourself is where real change begins.

Brittany Schnurr, LMFT therapist in Fairfax, VA sitting outside with colorful foliage looking warm and approachable.

Hi, I’m Brittany.

I work with thoughtful, self-aware women who feel stuck in patterns they can’t quite seem to change—no matter how much self-reflection they’ve done on their own. You’ve probably read the books, listened to the podcasts, and spent a lot of time trying to figure things out yourself. But real change and healing doesn’t usually happen in your head.

It happens in relationship.

In a space where the pressure eases, the shame softens, and you don’t have to keep performing or getting it “right.” This is a place where the tears can come without feeling the need to hide them - where something new can begin to take shape. As you begin to understand these patterns and connect to yourself differently, things start to shift. Over time, many women begin to feel more content in their work, more secure in their relationships, and more at ease with themselves.

That’s the kind of work we can begin together.


 

A space to slow down and begin

Specialties

Relationship Anxiety & Overthinking

You find yourself stuck in your head—replaying conversations, second-guessing your responses, and trying to get everything “right.”

Even when things are going fine, your mind won’t slow down.

Learn more about relationship anxiety therapy

Rebuilding Trust After Trauma or Confusing Relationships

You’ve found someone good—but something in you still feels on edge, like you’re waiting for things to change.

You want to relax into the relationship—but can’t fully get there.

Learn more about trusting a healthy relationship after trauma

What would it feel like to truly trust yourself in your relationships?